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Many people may not look into the signs of addiction until something extreme happens. In a world where people think they know it all, it becomes tough to call out friends or family members when we feel like something is up. Often the person in question will get defensive and shut you out. If there’s evidence that someone you care for is struggling with addiction, you have to handle it with care. There’s no right or wrong way to approach the conversation on drug or alcohol use, but there are some basic rules you can abide by to make the interaction smoother.
When it’s Time to Talk
The best time to have a conversation surrounding addiction is when both of you are sober. Everyone must have a clear mind to be efficient. Sitting your loved one down in a private location that is familiar is the best option in case they become emotional. If possible, you should plan out a time where there will be no interruptions for an extended time. This type of conversation shouldn't be rushed. This will more than likely be more than one conversation. Make sure to stay consistent and follow up.
There is no room to criticize or be judgmental when reaching out to a loved one about addiction or drug and alcohol use. Your communication should be short and to the point to allow them the space to speak. You should spend a lot of time listening. One of the easiest mistakes you can make as a friend is to come off as you know better than your loved one. Assuming a position of superiority could potentially lead to your loved one to shut down or withdraw.
Encouraging Through Minor Suggestion
You can’t stop your loved ones from doing what they want to do, but that doesn't mean you can’t help them. Simple things like encouraging them to avoid the place where they used to use can be enough in some cases. Suggesting other activities that don’t involve drinking can also be very beneficial. Avoiding places that serve alcohol in the evenings will allow you to be creative when finding new activities to engage in.
Explain the Physical Effects
It’s not easy to identify all of the effects of drug or alcohol use. Many people who try drugs don’t keep using, and some are capable of regular use without any problems developing.
In reality, it all depends on who is taking the drugs, how they’re taking them, and what they are mixing them with. It’s important to let your loved ones know the physical and mental effects their habits can have.
Although any adverse health effects is a big deal, some of the physical health effects of drug and alcohol use can be frightening. Your loved one can feel effects ranging from fatigue to loss of short-term memory. Some will even develop a weaker immune system, which will lead to an increased risk of contracting illnesses or diseases. As time goes on, some will have liver, kidney, and nerve damage. Mentioning these potential complications can be enough to spark a desire to stop using substances.
If the physical problems aren't enough, perhaps revealing the effects on the brain will push your loved one in the right direction. Drug and alcohol use can also lead to mood swings and the development of mental health disorders. Something as simple as not knowing your family’s history regarding mental health can be a potential issue. Your loved one may be at risk of engaging in activities that are out of the norm for them. Panic attacks and depression can also be a result of drug abuse.
Talk About Overdosing
As a last resort, explaining the possibilities of overdose can be a harsh but also viable plan. Letting them know that anyone can overdose, even if it's somebody’s first time using drugs, can be life-changing. Knowing there is the potential for life-long health effects or even death only from using a substance once may help open their eyes to the dangers of substance use.
Educate Yourself
If your loved one uses drugs or alcohol, it’s essential to understand why they decided to take that route. More than likely, substance use was more than just a means to feel good. Almost all behavior stems from something, and typically, when someone is using substances, they will be engaging in activities out of the norm. Things like stealing and unprotected sex can occur when someone is using drugs or alcohol.
Reminding your loved one about the potential dangers that can occur from drug or alcohol use can send them down a better path as well. Often people abuse drugs without understanding the harm it can cause to their bodies. Regardless of the approach you take, make sure your loved one knows you’re willing to talk in a judgment-free zone.
Overall, being concerned about a loved one’s drug or alcohol use can be stressful. However, there are many options on how you can deal with it. Whether you decide to address it or not is ultimately your choice. There will be pros and cons to each decision. Some signs will be obvious; some will need extra attention. Deciding to step in help could potentially change or save a life. If you choose to talk to your loved one about potential drug and alcohol use, make sure you approach with compassion. You must give them a chance to speak if they are open to conversation. Allow them to feel safe to get a full understanding. Help guide your loved ones to a position where they can comfortably seek help if necessary. If you are concerned about a friend or loved one struggling with addiction, you can reach out to START UP RECOVERY at (310) 773-3809.